I wanted to ask where to get the Windows Phone SDK for Xamarin / Visual Studio for Mac and how to add it to Visual Studio?
You can not use Windows Phone SDK on Mac.
On Mac you can create iOS and Android apps.
This is correct. VSfM does not target Windows Phone / Windows desktop. You'll need to use VS on Windows for that.
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